Why I Don’t Want an Undercooked Soulmate

Burning Words
2 min readNov 20, 2020


Hear me out. It’ll make sense if you keep reading.

To give a little bit of background, I am not in one set friend group. I have a couple of small groups of girls that I’m around, and from time to time certain people within those groups mix. I also have the college girls that I absolutely adore and from time to time (before the coronavirus of course) my college friends got to kick it with my hometown friends.

This one little trio that I am apart of, however, just recently reconnected. You have me, Mercedes, and Kenzie. In the middle of a conversation with Kenzie, that consisted mainly of funny zodiac sign videos, I had realized that out of our group, I am the only one who is single. Not that there is anything wrong with that; I know that I have a lot of progress to be made when it comes to getting to know myself and feeling comfortable with just being me.

After bring this up, Kenize messages me this: “The universe is preparing your significant other to be hot as hell. You don’t wanna get one that’s undercooked…Don’t look in the oven before it’s done, it won’t cook right.”

This is when I had a vivid memory pop into my head.

I remember always turning on the oven light and sitting in front of the oven door whenever things like cupcakes, baked potatoes, lasagna, or bread were baking. I liked watching the progress. I liked seeing things rise and change. I was never impatient because I knew when that timer went off, I was going to enjoy whatever came out of the oven.

This is also how I want to view any sort of love that potentially comes my way. Kenzie was right, I don’t want something to show up out of thin air when I’m not ready. I don’t want to take the cupcakes out of the oven to have them just because I want them right at that moment.

I want something that I can watch grow, and something that will grow with me. It has taken me a long time to learn this about myself. It is actually very interesting that I am learning to be okay with this type of patience at this specific age because now is the time I have been seeing couples getting engaged or moving in together, and here I am living with my parents and spend most of my free time at work.

I am fine with being patient, because I don’t want an undercooked soulmate.



Burning Words

By: Emma Gomes…all I got to say is I’m excited. Let’s do this!